Category Archives: Children

The Controversy Over Attachment Parenting

If you bring up the subject of attachment parenting, you are going to find that it is a very touchy subject for some people. I have never come across a conversation about this parenting style anywhere online that has not turned vicious. People either really love the idea, or they really hate it. There seems to be no in between. Though I can see where there may be some benefits to attachment parenting, it is definitely not something that I would ever do.

I guess you could put me in the category of those who do not like it. To me, attachment parenting seems to be coddling. While I think it is important for us to love and nurture our children, I don’t think attachment parenting is preparing them for the world. No matter how much we love them, or how easy we want things to be for them, the truth is that the world will eat up children were not ready for it. There is nothing easy in the adult world, and those who are not prepared are going to fail.

Those who support attachment parenting claim that the closeness gives the children the confidence they need when they are away from their parents. However, I have yet to see any evidence of this. I know a few people who practice attachment parenting, and all of their children tend to be clingy and whiny. When they are left on their own to deal with a situation, these children do not know what to do. They are so use to having an adult right next to them to make their decisions that they cannot properly decide things for themselves.

I guess those who believe in attachment parenting that think I’m a mean mommy. I give my child all the love and support I can, but I do everything I can to show her how to stand on her own two feet. I do not want to send my daughter off to kindergarten with a sense of helplessness. I want her to feel strong on her own, yet she will know that I’m here for her whenever she needs me. I’m sure there are good things about attachment parenting, but as far as I’m concerned, it is not something that I will ever practice. I know that children are the innocent ones, but if they are not prepared for the harshness of the real world, they’re going to fail. What kind of parent would I be if I set my child up for failure?

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Finding a New Job

It’s imperative to fully understand a job field prior to pursuing it. Not everyone ponders that statement before attending college. My advice to all students is to think hard and gain as much information on jobs as you can. Think about your personal interests. What do you want to do for the next 20 years after college life is through? It’s crucial to have this information before you select a major. I can’t reiterate how bad it would be to acquire a BS in biology and then later decide you want to be a journalist. This would be a serious problem. Good luck finding that reporting career with a degree in biology.

The first two years of college are fairly basic. Most people say that this is when you get the routine courses out of the way. That stuff that every student needs before choosing a major to focus on. This is the time when it’s prudent to seek out information on jobs. Do you have any clue what you want to be after college? It’s not a big deal if you don’t. Many of us have a difficult time discovering this information. Well, one of the best ways is by taking career placement tests. You can generally find these available in the career center of your University. Speak with an advisor and he/she will help you explore the infinite options. The wonderful thing about career placement tests is that they expose your strong suits and interests. This is valuable information. Once you discover what you’re good at and interested in, you can choose a major accordingly. And if this information on jobs is not enough, you can always try job shadowing. This is as real as it gets. Let’s say you possibly want to become a nurse. You can follow the daily routine of a nurse for two days straight and find out what it is they do on a more intimate level.

If you’re not currently enrolled at a University, there is online information on jobs as well. Go ahead and take a free career placement test from home, or perform a Google search on any specific job field you please. Read what’s currently expected education-wise and once you get in the field. You can even find out the general salary of the job you choose.

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Teaching a Child How to be Happy

Every parent wants their children to be happy in life. Every parent struggles with determining the best way to teach their kids how to be happy, hoping their advice is good and is followed. However, I think there is a challenge even greater that must be addressed first, and that is being sensitive and observant of your child to determine what paths for the child are advisable.

Letting go of your kids is difficult, whatever their age. Directing them toward what will make them happy may not be something that can be done deliberately. It may be discovered over time, and it may be discovered over time with errors. It may be the errors that are made are more educational than direct instruction would be. As painful as it may be, allowing your child to make mistakes and experience the consequences may be the best way to learn. When the experience is complete and the child has, in fact, learned from it, an appreciation for the absence of the consequence will teach an element of happiness.

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Types of baby bedding and their purpose

With the growing need for baby care and safety, baby bedding industry is booming and is at its peak. Different types of baby beddings are available in the market and on various online websites giving you a wide variety of options to buy your baby’s bedding. There are products like bedding sets, bed sheets, sleeping bags, blankets, mats, mattresses, mosquito nets, pillows and beds. Mosquito net is a must-have for your baby to ensure that your baby is safe from insect bites and enjoys a peaceful sleep. Mosquito nets are available in a variety of color and shapes and are also foldable to make storage easier. While buying your baby’s bed, bed sheets and pillow you need to make sure that the material is non-toxic and safe for children. The cotton used in making the product has to be skin-friendly and soft. We all know that it is quite tempting to tuck your baby in with cozy and soft blankets but you need to keep in mind that your baby is not suffocated. Use a light and thin blanket to keep your baby warm and tuck it securely under the foot of the bed, reaching no more than your baby’s chest. However, it is advisable that you give a blanket to your baby once he turns one year old to prevent sudden infant death. Bedding sets are available in funky colours and prints to make your baby’s bedtime fun and exciting. Safe and skin-friendly rubber mats that are made with Quick Dry technology ensure that your baby is protected from heat and bed rashes. It prevents seepage of liquid deep into the mattress thus leaving it dry and waterproof. Sleeping bags should be used when you baby is a few months older. You should buy a sleeping bag according to the weather, i.e. a low tog of 0.5 tog-1.0 tog in summer and no more than 2.5 tog during winter. Researchers suggest that you use a sleeping bag without a hood so that your baby is safe and does not slip down the bed. Using a sleeping bag with a blanket is bad for your baby as it might produce unwanted heat and disturb your baby’s sleep. There are a variety of mattress to chose from but a firm one is way better and safer than a soft one.

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Have you thought about adopting?

When a couple faces a struggle with having a child of their own, they often consider welcoming a child that is in need of a family into their home. In most cases individuals who are thinking about adoption are focusing on infants. However there are many children who fall into the category of older adoption.

Some kids spend years in different foster homes looking for a permanent family. Many of these children are bright, enthusiastic and full of love to give. In some cases more than one child from a single family is seeking permanent placement. For someone looking to become a parent older adoption is a way to enrich the life of a child or two or three siblings.

A positive to opening your heart and home to a child that is older than an infant is how quickly the process can occur. When you are only considering newborn adoption you may have to put on a waiting list. With older adoption there are many children already available and it’s not uncommon for you to have the child in your home within a short period of time.

Naturally there are many serious issues to consideration when you are adding any addition to your family. The first is with an older adoption you must be aware of any health and medical concerns that may need special training. If the child suffers from asthma or diabetes you should consult with your physician about what is required of you to ensure the child gets the best care.

Another special area of concern has to do with schooling. Unlike an infant, an older child will already be enrolled in school. Unless you are involved in a local older adoption, the child will need to change schools once they come live with you. It’s a wise idea to speak to the principal as well as the child’s future teacher and explain the special circumstances. This will allow them time to prepare the other students.

Adjustment can be difficult for everyone in the family, including your present child, their new sibling as well as the parents. Counseling can be very helpful in the case of an older adoption and is beneficial to all members of the family.

Welcoming your new son or daughter is an exciting experience. A great way to help them feel more comfortable is including them in the design of their new bedroom. They may have a favorite color and getting them to help with picking out paint and even the actual painting can really work to make them feel like they’ve finally arrived at the home they belong in. Older adoption can be a wonderful experience for everyone involved.

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